Posts Tagged ‘family’
Yesterday was my younger sister’s baby shower. Something interesting about my family is that there are a eight of us but our family is small at family functions. My sister is only the second one of us to get married and the third to have a child. My oldest brother is married and has two kids. They live in Hong Kong, so they are not at family functions here in the States. I got to meet my brother’s family and some in-laws when I was in Hong Kong earlier in July. It was good. But I digress…
On my sister’s husband’s side of the family there are not a ton of siblings, but there are a whole lot of cousins. It was the first time I got to meet the whole extended family, and it was great! I had met my brother and sister in-laws and extended father in-law a month and a half earlier when we started planning the shower. After I met with them, I texted my sister to tell her that she made a great choice 😀
The baby shower further confirmed that she made an excellent choice. There were about 30 new family members that I got to meet. Unfortunately, I can’t remember half their names, but I do remember something unique about everyone of them! They are great people that I’m very happy to call family 😀
You hear it all the time. “Men enjoy the chase more than…”
I mostly hear it from women as an explanation for why they should not give it up too soon in a relationship. I can’t imagine this was started by a man, but I have also heard men say it. Perhaps it is used as an explanation for why when we men are younger we jump from girl to girl. Or perhaps I did enjoy the chase when I was younger because I felt like I had to prove something about myself as a man.
The reality is that evolved men could care less about the chase. In fact, if we have to chase after a woman, we’re not going to remain interested very long. Evolved men are into women that are into us. If she’s interested, she should reciprocate our interest appropriately. I’m not talking about just getting laid, of course (that’s for a whole different topic).
When we are younger, men feel like we need to put forth our best image and prove that we are a good catch. We eventually get to a point where there is nothing we need to prove about being in a relationship. For me, every mistake there is to make in a relationship, I’ve already made it. Every stupid thing there is to say in a relationship, I’ve said it. I’ve learned each time, and I have grown.
For someone like me, I have a couple of businesses to run, dozens of hobbies (dancing, motorcycles, sailing, triathlons, skydiving, traveling, hiking, etc.) to pursue, an adorable nephew and family to spend time with, dogs that need a lot of exercise, and educational pursuits that all keep me busy and fulfilled. “Chasing” a woman is just going to distract from everything else.
Perhaps I’m getting old, but a woman that fits into who I am and doesn’t need to be chased is extremely attractive. I happen to like the man that I have become, and chasing after someone just doesn’t really make any sense.
We all know that smoking is linked to a myriad of diseases. We see all the campaigns about the dangers of smoking. I have encouraged people to stop smoking. I’ve evern purchased the gum and patches for an girlfriend I was dating years ago who was having difficulty quitting.
I never thought I would meet someone who almost died from quitting smoking. Technically, I didn’t meet him, but I did meet his daughter. A couple of Fridays ago (Friday the 13th to be precise) I was heading back to LAX on my second redeye of the day. I got to talking with the lady sitting next to me about things, and we got onto the topic of her dad. Her story was one of the ironic stories I’ve ever heard.
Her dad had been smoking for decades. For years, everyone had been telling him to quit smoking. He smoked a couple of cigarettes on his way to work and on his way back home. He also smoked during the day, but most of his smoking was in his truck because it was a long commute and stressed him out. One day, he decided that it would be best for him to quit so that he cold live a longer, more fulfilling life. He worked hard to resist the urge to smoke while driving.
After a few months, he ended up in the hospital with severe headaches and an increasing loss of mental capacity. He was diagnosed with brain damage. It turned out that his truck had a cabin leak that was pumping carbon minoxide into the cabin. While he was smoking, he always had the windows down to let the cigarette smoke out. After he quit smoking, he kept the windows rolled up.
There is one upside to this story. It generated awareness in his neighborhood about the dangers of carbon minoxide poisoning in their cars and homes.
How many Families have been running the United States over the last 20 years?
I’ll give you a hint: It’s more than 1 and less than 3!
Folks, the real reason to be concerned with Hillary Clinton being president has nothing to do with what her policies may or may not be. For God’s sake, the first George Bush promised “no new taxes” and that sure didn’t happen!
Plane and simple… we’ve gone from a two party political system to a two family political system: The Bushes and The Clintons! What’s the point of having a democracy when we make ourselves a monarchy? Well, I guess biarchy would be more like it?
For the past 20 years, we’ve had the same two families at the head of this country. If you want to include the power that the first George Bush had as Vice President, make it 28 years. For me, that’s almost my entire life. And there are even talks about having Bush’s brother run in 2012. Gimme a break already!
Enough is enough. No more John Adams garbage. No more Clintons. No more Ws or HWs or any other Bush for that matter. We have a democracy here. Let’s start using it!
Its been a week since the fires here in the Los Angeles area. I went home this weekend to spend some time with my nephew and take him to a pumpkin patch. I spent some time at my parents’ house, surveying the fire damage. Their house was fine. The yard was burn, but the house was fine. Other houses down the street were not so fortunate. I saw a few houses that were just completely burned. Nothing was left but the remains of their cars in the garage.
When I got home, I let me dogs in for some dog crack time. That smell. That horrid smell of burnt brush… It lingered around the door. I closed the door and gave my dogs some dog crack. They immediately lied down in the hallway and began to chomp away.
A few minutes later, I’m doing my P90X in my living room. I smell that horrid smell of burnt brush. No open doors. No open windows. Then I realize: my dogs have been outside for a good portion of the last couple of weeks. They’ve been wallowing around in ash and dust from the fires the whole time. UGH! Time for a dog bath.
You don’t realize it yet, but in the next 3 minutes you’re going to learn why God has not been answering your prayers. Before I get to that, I’m going to share with you an experience that I’ve had several times in the past and, most recently, this morning. My confession is that this is something that I have done myself. What I’m about to share is something that we have all done at some point in our life and then pondered why the outcome is so different than how we thought God had intended it. So what is the secret to God answering our prayers?
A good friend of mine was sharing about her experience with failing a test necessary to received her teaching credential. She had taken the test last year and failed. She was devastated, but she picked up her chin and started studying again to take the test this year. She spent hours studying and doing what she felt was needed to ensure that she passed the test. Then she began telling me about her conversations with her higher power, God, regarding her journey.
She had made several requests to God that if he did not want her to pursue this goal of hers, he should make sure that certain milestones were not met (such as receiving scholarships, early rescheduling, etc.) Yet, everything fell into place. My friend was clear that God intended her to take *and* pass the test this second time around. She was riding high in faith that she would pass the test. I remember her talking about how positive she was trying to be about the test. She was trying not to think about the last test. She had asked God for guidance, and it was clear to her that he intended her to pass. She failed the test earlier this week.
Almost everyone has heard of this happening to someone. Or maybe you have experienced this for yourself. You called upon God to give you guidance, and he has given you a path that is as clear as the hand in front of your face. To my friend, God has shown her exactly what she was supposed to do by supporting her pursuit of her teaching credential exactly as she knew it should happen. Now, she was upset with God for having not protected her interests. After all, she had made the requests of God, and he had put everything in place for her. I’d venture to guess that you’ve had this experience yourself.
So, why is it that God can appear to answer our prayers one day and not answer them the next? I know that some of us have it that it is all part of God testing us. However, that God is testing our faith by baiting us with cheese of our wants being fulfilled, only to take the cheese away at the last minute is a bit obscene. Bait & switch, deceit, and lies are very human type games. What is more likely than God playing some faith testing game with us is that we have fooled ourselves into believing that our wants and pursuits are supported by God at all. We do this by making demands on God like my friend, “God, if you really don’t want me to pursue this then you should not allow me to receive the scholarships I need.”
Many of us have it that we are so important that God is listening and reacting to every request and demand we make of him in the exact way that we want him to. There are a lot of assumptions we are making about our conversations with God:
- He’s actually listening
- He takes action in response to our requests
- He responds and alters the universe in a way that makes sense to us
Don’t be offended by any of these three assumptions. I’m not suggesting that God does not listen to us. I’m also not suggesting that God doesn’t take any action in response to our requests. I personally believe in a higher power that is always listening and responding to everything that everyone thinks, says, or does. So where does that leave us with the final assumption? The one that God responds and alters the universe in a way that makes sense to us.
As this blog rolls to an end, I invite you to consider that the answer
to the question at hand lies in the realm of responsibility. We project onto God that which we believe to be what he is “revealing to us”. Take a moment to soak this up. Put another way, we see the actions unfolding in our life as God’s response to the requests we are making of him. Like my
friend has experienced, God will not make you pass or fail in life. So, then, why do we make God responsible for the outcomes we experience in life? Stay tuned to my blog for more.
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